Sunday, April 28, 2013

B U S Y!

Our house is a chaotic jungle of possessions.  Vicki is packing, organizing, stressing, and prepping for the move.  Ken and I are doing our best to help her; unfortunately, most of it she has to handle herself.

In addition to all the prep for moving, she is making appointments with moving companies, trying to buy a car, and in disbelief that she got her dream job.  The disbelief will go away once she signs her paperwork on Friday and completely disappear when she is working long hours to get the new library up and going. 

This means Ken and I will be alone again.  It is odd when people say to me “Aren’t you going to be sad?”  My answer is how can I be sad that my daughters who are all three brilliant amazing women in their own ways have done exactly what I raised them to do.  They have gone out and grabbed their lives and are living them. 

It amazes me when I talk to them and hear about their lives.  I may not be involved in their daily life.  I may not talk to them daily or even every week (depending on everyone’s schedule) but I know if they need me or have news – Ken or I are their first call.  I’m so proud of who they are and what they have accomplished. 

We have a lot going on in the next ten days.  Vicki, her godmother, and I went  Indiana to look at apartments.  We looked at four apartments and went to five complexes.  The first apartment was small and very much like her college apartment - a bit shabby and old.  The second one was a viable option even though it was small and the bathroom had an odd setup.  The third one they took her to one I couldn't get into and when she was about to walk away they said well they might have one that was accessible and took us to that.  It had a great layout with full size washer / dryer and place for her laundry but even though it was a new complex the cabinets and counters were very old looking (i.e. something from the 60s).  The other thing was the one they showed us they weren't sure it was in a cat building.  Vicki's concern was that she would have to choose between having her cat (not a choice there) or being in a place I could visit (not a choice there either in her mind).  The fourth place was just a fiasco.  We had an appointment with them and had talked at length about her needs before we set up an appointment but when we got there - they weren't sure they had anything.  Then the woman said well I have two that might work and of course of the two the more expensive one was the better option which was nearly $50 over her budget.  We walked away.  

The last place we went to is the one she was most excited about.  We were two hours early and walked through the apartment.  It was nearly perfect!  There were lots of closets, a wood burning fireplace, washer/dryer hookup, fenced patio, end unit, and just a nice layout.  It is a two bedroom, one bath with a nice sized living dining room.  The bathroom is a normal layout.  The kitchen is a typical galley kitchen for an apartment, however, it has a gas stove.  There is lots of light, room, and a good feeling to the apartment.  The two drawbacks, it has plush carpet and no good place for cat litter box and there are two steps to get into the building.  These were concerns for Vicki.  I told her not to be worried about the steps because even though we had walked around so many apartments I managed the two steps.  Also Ken (today) suggested we get a chair mat to put under the litter box to protect the carpet.  This addresses the problem for the carpeting.  

The woman who showed us the apartment kept asking Beth if we liked the apartment.  She also was the most helpful when we called.  She went and took pictures of the actual apartment so Vicki could see it before she put money into her application.  Also we spent some time with this woman and she would be one of the people Vicki would be dealing with.  She is also a cat person and was very fun to be around.  We took the apartment.  She has a place to live and the utilities are set up.  We haven't nailed down some of the details.

Next weekend we will move her to Indiana with the help of some wonderful people.  Up here Alex and one of my student workers is going to help with loading the truck on Friday.  Then when we get to Indiana, Kelly and Dominic and their families are going to help with the unloading.  This week it will be finishing packing up and finalizing details.  My goal for next weekend is to get her settled into her apartment – boxes unpacked and furniture placed and items put in something of order. 

Will there be tears? Oh hell yes!  I’m happy for her but it will be sad to leave her in Indiana.  Just as I cried when Virginia and Stephanie moved to Georgia – it isn’t sadness though – it is more happy tears to see them move forward with their lives and know that my role in their lives is changing.  I welcome that change.  Afterall, I raised my daughters to be strong, independent, self-sufficient women, which they all are.  

Sunday, April 21, 2013

She Got IT!!!!!

Vicki got the job!  Friday she was bummed by the time 4:00pm rolled around because Indiana is Eastern Daylight Time it was close of business hours.  She hadn’t heard anything and was on the downward slope of “why haven’t they contacted me” and “I must not have gotten it.”

Yesterday we ran to do errands as we normally do on a pay week.  It was all about grocery shopping, UPS, and the pharmacy.  We got home and had lunch.  The whole day she didn’t check her email as she had been the whole week before. 

As we were getting ready to go to the open house for my niece who just moved back from Arizona (welcome back Cristi!), she checked her email, saw an email from the HR guy and figured she didn’t get the job.  Then she opened it and read the offer!!!

She laughed and cried all at once.  She was shaking with excitement.  I opened the netbook and logged into her email so we could read the offer.  It is a good offer and a good job.  I’m so happy for her and she is very excited. 

Yesterday – after the party – we came home and looked at apartment complexes.  Kelly and Dominic’s friend from Fort Wayne had very nicely sent us a list of good and bad complexes to look at.  We have a spreadsheet started and will call a couple of them today.  She will call and ask questions of the others on Monday as well as setting up appointments. 

With the end of the semester, Vicki’s move, and all the stuff going on at work I am going to be very busy over the next three weeks.  I am sure it will all get done but at the same time I am sure it will be crazy!  Crazy in the best possible way though!!!!

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Update on Eczema and Writing - odd combination but hey that is how it goes sometimes...

It has been about 6 – 8 months since I started using Vicki’s homemade goodies.  My hair is fabulous.  I don’t have to use conditioner anymore.  My legs are almost healed; I have some scarring on the one leg that is fading and one spot on my other leg lingering.  I've started using deodorant for the first time in a long time.  It is amazing that I can wear this and no red itchy junk – just clean smelling. 

We are working on building a business for these items.  We’ve started a blog and will have pages with product description up soon.  It is small still – very small.  We are developing a flyer and other marketing tools.  If you are interested in the products email Vicki at

My romance novel did not make it to the next round.  This just means I have to work on self-publishing it this summer.  School is done mid – to end of May so after that I will focus on getting this prepped for self-publishing. 

Good news though – one of my poems will be in the Muse this spring.  I’m looking forward to the reading on May 2 though I’m a bit nervous about reading the poem to a large group of people. 

I’ve also been submitting some of my work to different publications (not too many as I’ve been so busy) and time will tell on these.  I wrote one grant, which I will hear about end of the year and I’m planning to write another that is due in June (I think). 

Finally – after being AWOL from my email for several days I was wandering through and discovered this bit of good news.  My poem that was printed by CC&D Wild Places was read at a poetry reading in Chicago and there is a youtube video of it.  Check it out!

Monday, April 8, 2013

Swamped and a Tad Bit Overwhelmed

Today I am going to work early so I can accomplish a couple of tasks early before others come in.  We – the department I work in – are moving so there are a lot of details to deal with.  Registration starts today so not only do I have to register for classes today but I have to juggle all the questions and issues that will arise with registration.  Scheduling for Spring 14 starts today and we have several classes that have to get into high demand rooms, which is why I’m going in early.

In addition to these tasks, I have homework to read / review in order to gain a better understanding of one section and lab I did really poorly on.  I have a book to finish reading for tomorrow as well as comments for a debate in class we are allegedly having. 

When I get to work early, I plan to leave my door closed until I have the scheduling done.  I’ll have it unlocked but closed in the hopes no one sees I’m in so I can focus on the task at hand.  After the schedule is entered – at least the first swipe at it – I’ll register for classes and tackle my emails. 

People ask me all the time how I manage to do all that I do – I schedule it.  I woke up this morning with my alarm and started with I need to shower, dress, and then… it is just what I do in an effort to prepare myself for what needs to happen and hopefully not forget anything.  If I outline what needs to get done then it stays in my head and I try to work on those things.  Now to be honest there are a number of times that I don’t accomplish what is in my head because other things come up but I do the best I can to be organized and get things done. 

I have confidence that I will accomplish what I need to – both with work, school work, and home stuff.  It may not all happen today but it will happen – even if I have to put in extra time here and there. 

Sunday, April 7, 2013


Ever have one of those nights where you know it will do no good to go to bed because you just aren't going to sleep?  Tuesday night was one of those nights for me.  For me, I was headed to bed at a reasonable hour - Vicki had gone to bed and I came out from the bathroom.  I heard a noise like someone pushing on a door or the wind rattling a door.  A little creepy but not disturbing until Sasha (the house guarding cat) sat down in front of the door looking at the door like she was expecting someone to walk in.  She does this when she knows someone is at the door.

I called Vicki to tell her Sasha was being creepy.  Then Sasha dashed to her tower - now normally she goes all the way to the top and stares out at her "kitty vision" but she stopped on the second tier and stared out sidewalk in front of our and appeared to watch something/someone walk towards the garage (away from the door). 

At this point Vicki is coming back upstairs and checking all the doors (one had been left unlocked) and closing any curtains.  I'm feeling a lot more creeped out.  We are having the discussion of should I call the cops or not?  When our motion detector light on the garage goes off.  I still haven't seen anyone but that light you have to be fairly tall and fairly close for it to go off.  Then about five minutes later the neighbor's motion detector light across the street (kiddy corner from us - directly across from the drug busted house) goes off. 

I picked up my phone and called the police.  I told the dispatcher I didn't want to be a nervous - I stayed up too late woman who was hearing odd things but here is what happened.  She said an officer had been dispatched. 

Now the police have raided the house next door twice.  They also sneak through our yard to get to their backyard and use our trees for cover.  Want to know how reassuring that isn't?  So the police are well aware of our neighbors. 

We had two very nice police officers stop in to tell us they had checked around the house, the cars, and the neighborhood.  One went out while the other took information for the report.  They were very nice and reassuring. 

Unfortunately, I was already creeped out and for the rest of the night every time there was a noise I woke up.  It was not a restful night at all but fortunately nothing more than a bit of a creeped out feeling.

Back at the Grindstone

With nine days off, you would think I got a lot accomplished.  I did when it comes to spending time with my girls but off my to-do list?  No...