Sunday, November 12, 2017

Sexual Harassment

It's such a surprise to everyone that women are coming out saying me to. Our society has treated women as second-class Citizens for centuries. Women have been property, have been slaves, have been raped and tortured and beaten. It goes on today.

Yet now with the Weinstein everyone's coming out with oh my God this is so shocking. But it's not shocking it's a common occurrence and believe 1 in 4 women are assaulted in our society. How is this all right?

How do we make it alright for little boys to grab little girls and it's cuz he likes her. How do we allow stereotypes like girls must wear pink and boys must wear blue on TV? Why are we as women not fighting to be equals?  Equal pay, equal say, equal access to all health options like birth control and abortion.

I've heard perfectly intelligent men and women say oh it's just the way it is. That's wrong. It may be the way it is; it's not the way it should be.

We should tell the people around us that requiring sexual favors for anything is wrong. No means no. Yet that simple phrase is so debated I feel like we need something else but I don't know what's stronger. How do we break this cycle of male domination in the worst ways and in the most subtle of ways? 

It's not a woman's problem it's a societal problem. We have to teach our boys to be respectful. We have to teach our girls to stand up for themselves and say no, even if they have to use force to say no.

It's time for society to realize that women have value. Without women none of us would be here. Until women feel safe and able to be around everyone we will continue to have this problem. Men need to shut up and listen. Because women say this happened to me does not mean that a man's experience of being abused is any less or any easier to take. It simply means we as a gender have experienced more of this.

A man of power used his power to manipulate women to do things they didn't want to do. This is rape. This happened so often it's commonplace. Yet we act like this is something new with the Weinstein accusations being levied. 

The DA's and the organizations and the actors and the other industries who are coming out and saying oh we didn't know it was this bad. To them I say too little too late. Now when there's been bad PR and an outcry against these things happening why didn't the police or the prosecutors or the other male-dominated organizations do anything to stop this man. To me this is more cover your ass activity for these groups then it is actual prosecution and punishment.

It's time we get our heads out of the sand or other locations and face the problem at hand. The problem is women are not valued. They are considered mothers or whores. They are considered property although in our politically correct society they aren't called property anymore. However what else would you call it?

We need to stop talking about change and start making things change. Stand up speak out and be proud to be a woman by standing up for other women.

Sunday, November 5, 2017

Let's Call It What It Is

Here is another rant - you've been warned.

It's such a surprise to everyone that women are coming out saying "me to". Our society has treated women as second-class Citizens for centuries. Women have been property, have been slaves, have been raped and tortured and beaten. It continues today.

Yet now with the Weinstein scandal everyone's coming out with oh my God this is so shocking. But it's not shocking it's a common occurrence and believe one in four women is assaulted in our society. how is this all right?

How do we make it alright for little boys to grab little girls because he likes her. How do we allow stereotypes like girls must wear pink and boys must wear blue on TV? Why are we as women not fighting to be equals?

I've heard perfectly intelligent men and women say oh it's just the way it is. That's wrong. It may be the way it is it's not the way it should be.

We should tell the people around us that requiring sexual favors for something, for anything is wrong. No means no, and yet that simple phrase is so debated I feel like we need something else but I don't know what's stronger. How do we break this cycle of male domination in the worst ways and in the most subtle of ways?

It's not a woman problem it's a societal problem. We have to teach our boys to be respectful. We have to teach our girls to stand up for themselves and say no, even if they have to use force to say no.

It's time for society to realize that women have value. Without women none of us would be here. Until women feel safe and able to be around everyone we will continue to have this problem. Men need to shut up and listen. Because women say this happened to me does not mean that a man's experience of being abused is any less or any easier to take. It simply means we as a gender have experienced more of this.

A man of power used his power to manipulate women to do things they didn't want to do. This is rape. This happened so often it's commonplace. Yet we act like this is something new with the Weinstein accusations being levied.

The DA's and the organizations and the actors and the other Industries who are coming out and saying oh we didn't know it couldn't possibly be this bad. To them I say too little too late. Now when there's been bad PR and an outcry for if these things happened why didn't the police or the prosecutors or the other male-dominated organizations do anything to stop this man. To me this is more cya Activity 4 these groups then it is actual prosecution and Punishment.

It's time we get our heads out of the sand or other locations and face the problem at hand. The problem is women are not valued. They are considered mothers or whores. They are considered property although in our politically correct society they aren't called property anymore. However what else would you call it?

We need to stop talking about change and start making things change. Stand up, speak out and be proud to be a woman by standing up for other women.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

Hostile Work Environment

Herein lies a rant.  Don't say you weren't warned.

The other night on the news there were two stories which annoyed me - obviously enough I'm still thinking about them.  One story was about the juvenile prison which had five employees attacked over the weekend.  The story was all about the how they have a hard time keeping employees.  

The other story was about the DA in Dane county announcing they are no longer going to be able to prosecute all crimes due to a shortage of employees, i.e. prosecutors.

Both of these stories hit a note with me.  I've worked for the State of Wisconsin since 2006.  I've liked my jobs and the people I work with.  The different departments I've worked for have been interesting and like most jobs there were great things and not so great things.  Then 2010 rolled around.

In 2010, the governor basically said state employees were bankrupting the state and they were horrible people.  This started a war against state employees.  For a time insurance cost more, before it became a political move to lower the cost of our insurance.  But instead of the state covering what they used to, they changed the insurance so there are more co-pays, more deductibles, and more money out of my pockets.  

Public service employees are typically paid less but the benefits used to be some of the best.  Now the pay is mediocre and the benefits are getting too costly.  

Back to the two stories, why would someone work for an organization which vilifies its employees?  Why would you accept a job which has mediocre pay when you can make more in the private sector?  The reason the government can't fill the positions is because the top people have made working for the state a bad deal.  There's a disrespect for the ethics of the employees.  

If you want employees who will stick, you have to provide them with good wages and benefits, as well as a safe work environment.  If you aren't providing these things, you aren't going to get quality employees who are willing to stay.  To our top government officials, get your heads out of your asses, stop helping the rich and start doing what you're supposed - representing EVERYONE in the state, not just the rich.

Saturday, October 21, 2017

Wayfarer Limits

The new Wayfarer book is out!  Wayfarer Limits is all about defining the limits in the characters lives and what are acceptable limits and what limits are not acceptable.

Here's a description
Disagreeing without fighting, Adara and Decker face the new challenges as Command issues new mandates restricting how all members do their jobs.  Tension rises on the ship and across the human territory.  Diplomatic relations with the Tuscalains goes poorly for the humans but not for the Wayfarers. Racial unrest ripples across the human territory, hitting close to home with Adara’s family.

I'll be updating my website as soon as links become available.  So go here to find the links where this is for sale.

For the rest of my day, I'm planning on working on editing or maybe watching disaster movies.  I've not decided.  I'm really excited about this publication.  It wrote fast and edited really well.  Right now I have five or six manuscripts to edit.  

Friday, October 13, 2017

Days Fly By

It's only October and my life is speeding up.  My weekends are full and busy.  I need a vacation but won't be getting any for the rest of the year. 

We've been working on the house.  By we - I mean, Ken and Vicki with some outside help occasionally.  Vicki's rooms are painted and I think she's got them organized the way she wants them.  Our bathroom has been painted and reorganized.  Our bedroom has begun the process of deep cleaning, painting, and reorganizing. 

On my couch, I have a dozen (maybe more) crochet projects which are in different stages of completion.  The problem - I'm writing.  I counted this morning and have completed eight manuscripts.  Some have been published.  Some are in the editing stage.  Some I'm working on covers and other components.  I need to make gifts for faculty and student workers.  My crochet list is never ending. 

This weekend is busy.  Vicki's going to a book sale event at the state fairgrounds.  It's a pay week so we're going to have all this running around to do.  I've got to pay bills.  Grocery shopping needs to be done.  There are other errands which need to be done. 

Then there is the prep for breakfast and lunch this next week.  We'll have to fit that in.  As is normal, I have this list of things I want to get done but it's looking like this weekend will be filled to overflowing. 

Instead of stressing about the busy weekend, I'm going to attempt to prioritize things and schedule next weekend.  In a part of my head, there's the crazed maniac saying but we have (insert list of a dozen or two dozen things to do).  In another part, is the rational person who is saying there isn't anything earth shattering that has to get done this weekend.  I'll make a list (of course) and do as much prep as I can so I can be ready to do what I need next weekend which shouldn't be as busy - I hope. 

Friday, September 29, 2017

Grumpiness Abounds

It's been a week.  The weather changed and my pain level is up.  I try to remember this most days but sort of lost it at work.  My student worker got to listen to me complain and curse.  I apologized it shouldn't have happened.  I did close my door, call my sister and complain to her.  I got over it mostly but there are just things which annoy  me.  I had one of those days.

All around, rough week.  Pain at levels which are nearly unbearable.  I hear my inner voice saying things I don't really feel or believe but when I'm weighed down with pain it takes me to places I don't want to go.  This is not a plea for pity or sympathy - a statement.  My hope - if I talk about this which I hate doing - someone out there will know they aren't alone and will know someone else understands.

Movement equals agony.  Breathing is work.  For me the worst part is I can't crochet.  I am struggling to write when I've got stories pounding in my head.  The things which lift and change my mood - which is supposed to help - are too painful to do.

This is what chronic pain is.  This is what I deal with.  It makes it hard to be positive and upbeat and pleasant.  My job requires pleasant.

I get through.  I'm not giving in to this bullshit.  The pain will ease.  The pain will fade.  I'll sleep.  I'll work on a story until the pain has shifted.  I'll do what I can to get through it.  It's all I can do.

Part of me wants to rail on the medical community but really what's the point.  I'm to a point where I accept they're not going to help me.  All I can do is find ways to cope.

So on to normal - whatever that is.  It's pay week.  I've paid bills.  Ken and Vicki will run errands tomorrow.  I'm hoping for a quiet weekend.  I'm hoping I can spend time writing and publishing things I have done.  I'll have to see how the weekend goes.

It seems like we always have a lot going on every weekend.  I have a stack of crocheting on my couch I'd like to finish.  I have several projects I'd want to experiment with.  I just need to get my arms, back, and neck to stop hurting.

Tomorrow I can sleep later.  I'm hoping to sleep until I naturally wake up.  This helps with the pain but again, it's a pay week so busy weekend.  I'll see how things go.  Ken and Vicki like to grocery shop at like six in the morning.  I see no reason to acknowledge six am exists.  They're happy morning people.  I'm going to post this blog and go write.  If the writing is going, I hope it will keep me busy for a few hours.

I'm working on an independent story.  If that peters out, I've got Wayfarer 17 and a few other options for working on writing.  I also have editing to do.  Always there seems to be editing to do.

Monday, September 18, 2017

Catching Up

Over the weekend, I got three manuscripts edited and worked on two other manuscripts.  Ken and Vicki did all the errands on Saturday.  Sunday we went out to breakfast.  We have a couple of places we like but wanted to try other places.  So we went somewhere other than our favorites.

The food looked and tasted good but all three of us had unpleasant stomach issues after going to this place.  We will not be returning to that place for a Sunday meal again.

Saturday, I spent a couple hours at Natureland.  I can't hike anymore which makes me exceedingly sad as it's such a nice park.  I sat in my car and edited while the beauty of the place helped me cope with a few things.  I parked in an end stall in order to be out of the way and in the shade.  The tree closest to it seemed to reach down to try to tease me.

It was productive for me to be there.  I turned my phone down.  I worked on editing.  I watched the lake and the trees.  I watched the people come and go.  I wrote two scenes (by hand which means I need to type them up).

Sunday Vicki and I worked on food prep for the week.  I cut up a bunch of stuff for her for lunches and supper tonight.  I made pudding for Ken and Vicki.  We got a lot of stuff done.

Surprisingly, we sold the snare drum which has been on Facebook.  I thought we were going to sell Vicki's table and chairs but unfortunately the guy never showed.  When I messaged him, he said he couldn't get a van.  It would have been nice if he had let me know.

We still have a few things to sell and they are listed on Facebook.  I'll see how they go.

Every weekend we're working on things in the house.  Ken's been painting our bedroom.  We picked a color and they went to get.  I thought it was darker but didn't say anything.  Ken got two walls done and had to go back for more paint.  When they mixed the color, it was different.  There was a bit of back and forth.  It was decided whoever mixed the first gallon did it wrong.  So they got the new gallon for free.  They talked about leaving one of the walls the darker color and painting the other three walls the lighter color.  I'm good with that.

Vicki's been working on getting her space more organized.  She's been painting, building shelves (book and bedside table) and a desk.  She's been working on organizing her books, getting lists made, and making it portable so she can have lists so she knows what she needs to purchase.

I've got several crochet projects I need to work on but the writing has been pushing me.  I've finished a number of things.  I have a meeting with my artist to see about covers and other things.  I'm hoping to finish several projects and get them published soon.

I've been getting journals from all sorts of places.  I took one of them and made it into my writing to do list sort of.  On one page I outlined what I've got the projects I'm working on.  I've been losing track of what stage I'm at for different projects.  This means I'm doing work twice when I shouldn't have to.  Hopefully this will help me keep better track of where I am for the projects.  It will also prompt me to work on different aspects of the projects like writing the synopsis and so on.

In the journal I think I'm going to work on pages for marketing things as well.  Maybe take a page per book and write where I've sent requests for book reviews.  I have a hard time tracking this which again leads to a duplication of work.

I feel like I've been so busy, I hardly have time to breath.  I know it's good because I keep going but there are times I want to just take a moment.  I guess that's why I went to Natureland - to take a moment.  Even though I was editing, it changed my perspective.

Sexual Harassment

It's such a surprise to everyone that women are coming out saying me to. Our society has treated women as second-class Citizens for cen...